Mother’s Day. Perhaps the ONE day mothers can get their children to attend church. Mother’s Day. Either you love it, hate it or if you have children yourself, you may be ambivalent. I think that half of us look forward to it, while the other half seriously dreads the day. I saw a post earlier this week lamenting the fact that it is difficult for those without children to attend church on Mother’s Day because a. they don’t have children because it’s been difficult to conceive or there is no partner or b. they just don’t want children or c. they have lost their own mother. I read the post. It gave me pause. I try to be compassionate for those who have not had children. Heck, I AM compassionate because that’s how I’m wired. I physically gave birth to one child, but have several children. I lost one child through miscarriage, so I carry that too. I almost didn’t have my child….well, that’s not entirely true. Her father wasn’t “ready” for a child so proposed an abortion. In order to have an abortion, you must be at a certain point in your pregnancy. I wasn’t there yet. I knew I wasn’t far enough along. I lied at the clinic. The lady said, “Congratulations. You know your body. You’re only 5 weeks.” I STILL remember returning to my mother’s home with her standing in the door way, blocking the entrance. “They wouldn’t do it because I’m not far enough along, ” I said. She hugged me and said, “Praise the Lord.”
I acquiesced. It was just easier than taking a stand. I knew…hoped that what they said was true…I wasn’t far enough along. Thank God. I cannot imagine life without my Baby Girl.
My heart breaks for those who have lost children. I Cannot.Imagine. My heart breaks for those who have lost their own mothers. I.Cannot.Imagine. My heart breaks for those who cannot conceive. I.Cannot.Imagine. But, what I will say is this: Mothers – whether by birth, adoption, role or whatever – sacrifice so much of themselves, their time, their resources, etc. Mother’s Day is ONE day out of 365 days where we actually honor the most sacred job on the planet.
To ALL of you who accept the title of “Mother” – no matter how you received it, I salute you. I honor you. It is often a thankless job, but rewarding nonetheless. And, to you, I wish…A very Happy Mother’s Day!